Day 297 – Names & AA
I put together this little chart to document the changes in my weight since I started hormones. I am going to try to work in some other details such as breast growth to show the correlation between weight and fat distribution.
I spent this afternoon filling out the different forms to get my name legally changed. (Yay!) The process consists of several steps including going before a judge to have a name change petition approved, changing the name on your social security card, getting a new drivers license with your new name on it, and changing any other official documents (Passport, etc). Unfortunately you need an official copy of your birth certificate to send in with your petition and my town’s court house closes at noon on Fridays so I have to wait until Monday to mail it but 2 more days isn’t going to make a big difference considering it can take 6-8 weeks to get a court date. The Initial name change petition costs $165 and that is the most expensive of them all.
I also got my laptop back from Apple and it is running good as new with a brand new logic board, free of charge! Without further adieu, here are the new ask Abbey questions for today.
Q: Can I ask you about your sexual orientation? Do you consider yourself a lesbian? And what about your girlfriend? Did you both started as kind of an heterosexual couple or you were always out with her and as a girl? Sorry if asking this seems somehow weird, but I’m questioning my own sexual orientation a lot and see you and your gf (even if only in pics and posts) and think to myself “thats the kind of couple I’d like to be in” (it’s a feeling that I get from seeing you, not something rational). So I think that hearing about it might somehow help me think about myself, in a way.
Take care Abbey! 🙂
Greetings from Argentina,
A: Hello Brenda! That is a perfectly reasonable question, it is something I haven’t really touched on before. (Other than mentioning I had a girlfriend) To answer your question, I identify myself as a lesbian. Sam, my girlfriend, is a little more in a gray area on this one so I can’t really answer on her behalf. I think she kind of thinks of me as in-between, or the best of both worlds. (I like the idea of a mixed super-gender)
When we first met she actually didn’t know what I was because we had one of the same classes and she had a huge crush on me but didn’t know who I was. However, when she did find out who I was she learned that I was trans and still wanted to get to know me. She has never really thought of me as male so I would say it’s always been a lesbian relationship. I find nothing wrong with a relationship between two females, trans-females, or any combination of the two and I think it isn’t necessary to fit into a specific orientation.
I hope this was helpful in your your understanding of yourself!
Q: I apologize if this is a bit personal for your blog! Do you plan on getting Sexual Reassignment Surgery? If so, how important do you think the surgery is to maintaining your identity? If not, do you just feel it isn’t necessary to go that far?
A: At this very moment I do not feel the need to get SRS. Don’t get me wrong, I would LOVE to have a vagina, but due to certain restrictions in the cost and the procedure itself, I have chosen not to get it done. I am perfectly okay with having a penis, to me it isn’t what in your pants that maters, it is how you feel on the inside and how you identify yourself.
That being said, if we have some significant advances in SRS technology within the next 10 years and my finances allow it, I would definitely not rule out the idea of getting it done.
Thats it for now, I’m working on putting together a brief timeline of when I started each “step” in transitioning so keep an eye out for it in the transition section.
I don’t know if there’s been any formal studies on the straight versus gay thing and sex but anecdotal evidence suggests women are more flexible in this area. My impression is this is a power versus relationship thing.
I’ve also picked up anecdotal evidence that some women will end the relationship dead in its tracks because they don’t regard themselves as lesbians. At the other end some see trans status as being man plus.
The other questions I had planned for the previous topic would’ve skirted both this and the SRS question because they’re to obvious and cliché. I feel the trans brand has to be about more than that or its going nowhere.
You’re so good at this blogging thing. It makes me jealous!
To complete the answer to the issue about my sexual orientation, I wouldn’t categorize myself as a lesbian, but I wouldn’t label myself as anything else either. I like the idea of a gray-area and I really don’t know, or care, what my sexual orientation is. If I like you, we’re going out, end of story. There have been women and men I’ve wanted to go out with, but then I found Abbey and I’m quite content. 😛
Super-gender sounds hot, btw. I love it.
@Summer Day: You’re scaring me. D: I’m going to suddenly end the relationship because I don’t believe I’m strictly lesbian? Nuuu!! *clings to Abbey* >_<