AA: Episode One

Here are the first few Ask Abbey questions. I will wait  util I get 3-5 questions and then post them on the front page.

Enjoy 🙂

Q: Do you think it’s more important to aim your blog at the trans community or reach a wider audience?
-Summer Day 

A: I think it is equally important to provide content for both members of the trans community, and those who may just be looking in to check it out. The other day I realized that there are all the girls who want to live stealth and hid their trans status. That is their own decision, but what I realized, was that if everyone is in stealth, how is the community going to get to know trans people and begin to accept them? The more visible we are, the more they will interact with us and learn to accept us. The same way Gay people have started to gain acceptance over the last decade. The more of us out there showing the world that we are just as normal as them, the sooner we will get equality.

Q: Being defined as trans can be a drag because it narrows everything down to that focus. Do you have other interests or ways of socialising that help keep you level and be seen by other people as a rounded person? – Summer Day

A: Being trans is only one small part of who I am, I have many creative sides and loving sides hidden deep within. As for hobbies, I enjoy 3D sculptural art and I do thing like welding, jeweler crafting and glassblowing. I am also a musician, though I haven’t been putting much time into my music as of late. My social skills may be a bit lacking, but I can get by.

Q: Your story is an arresting and different alternative. As an artist do you see any mileage in using it dramatically or commercially one day? Is there something about your experience that is making you as a person and gives you a platform? – Summer Day

I do see the possibility of my being trans becoming part of my art work in the future. I am interested in art that blends the lined between masculine and feminine. If I ever do any modeling that would be a perfect example of pushing the boundaries of gender in art.

Q: Some trans have been accused of being selfish and alienated their families. Do you think your experience of slowing down and taking time to show you care for them has helped the situation be more satisfying for everyone? – Summer Day 

A: I think the effort I made to include my family in the transition process undoubtedly helped everyone get through it. After going through that most of my family is supportive and there for me. If I had done it the other way and simply started self-meding and changing who I was without them knowing, I would’ve eventually had to confront them about it and they probably wouldn’t be as supportive after being lied to and left behind. In order to keep your family healthy I think it is important to bring them with you, get them to learn about what it is to be trans, help them understand that you are going through. It is definitely a process but you will eventually get through and in the end you will have your family standing at your back.

Q: How did your family react to your coming out as trans? What part of that was most difficult?

A: Overall my family has reacted really well to me being trans. Only 2 or 3 people in my extended family disagree with it. That being said, it was still a terrifying experience. The hardest part for me was taking the first step and coming out to my mom. I was 18 years old and one night I sat down by her while she was on the computer. I told her I had to tell her something but it took me at least half an hour to get it out. Once I finally got it out she was shocked and cried, she is a very emotional person. It was very tough for my parents. We tried going to a few therapists but my mom broke down one day on the way home and it just made me feel so bad. I basically dropped the subject for 3 years because I was afraid of seeing my parents like that.

Fast forward to a year ago, I had still been dealing with my trans feelings and it wasn’t getting any easier. I decided I had to do something about it this time. I sat down in the same chair I did 3 years before and told her I still felt like I needed to be a girl. It was difficult at first but we found a good therapist and they came to accept the new me. Now they are doing pretty well, my mom still messes up and calls me a he sometimes but she usually catches herself.

Q: How tall are you? If you don’t mind me asking. =)
-Ashley

A: Not at all! I am 6′ 3″. growing up I had every gym teacher asking me to play basketball. =)


					
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About gingertrap

I am a mtf transgender girl. I want to document my experiences with hormone treatment and help educate other transgirls of their effects as well as the daily struggles of being a human being.

8 responses to “AA: Episode One”

  1. Summer Day says :

    You know those low budget black comedy movies? I sometimes feel like my life is all swapped around like I’m the oddball looking out. The gays had their thing but do you think trans culture can find its own voice and what might that voice be like?

    It can be hard seeing the other side and I’ve read about some trans whining that nobody understands them and getting quite hostile. I think some of the obsessing and suicide talk that goes around might be part of that. Some trans have been accused of being selfish and alienated their families. Do you think your experience of slowing down and taking time to show you care for them has helped the situation be more satisfying for everyone?

    Your story is an arresting and different alternative. As an artist do you see any mileage in using it dramatically or commercially one day? Is there something about your experience that is making you as a person and gives you a platform?

    Being defined as trans can be a drag because it narrows everything down to that focus. Do you have other interests or ways of socialising that help keep you level and be seen by other people as a rounded person?

    A creative who now teaches avoids the typical studying of published works and student on student review model and bases his teaching more on the craft and review by seasoned professionals like in the work environment. Do you think it’s more important to aim your blog at the trans community or reach a wider audience?

    (Sorry if this came over as a bit of a magazine interview. The black comedy thing was floating around my head over the past few weeks and when your story punched my button I started gushing.)

  2. gingertrap says :

    Haha, that’s fine. it is probably going to take me a little time to think all of this over and put my answers together. If you don’t mind I’d like to break your questions up and post them in the AA section.

  3. Summer Day says :

    I wasn’t being too serious so I don’t mind what you do with them.

    My brain normally goes blank on questions so this has been an interesting stretch in another direction.

  4. Summer Day says :

    I was gagging to ask more questions which dug into things but didn’t want to get too intense about that. It might go three rounds just to fill things out if the material is there and we’re up to it. Are you okay with another batch?

    I’ve never done this before. Is this as interesting and as much fun for you?

  5. gingertrap says :

    I’m all for answering more questions, it makes it feel as if I am talking to someone rather than shouting my deepest personal thoughts into an empty auditorium.

    If you do come up with some more could you submit them through the Ask Abbey form? It would make it a lot easier for me to sort through them with the other questions I get!

  6. Summer Day says :

    I’d rather just run the questions as an interview in this topic then let it go. It keeps it all in one place and makes me feel like I’m having a real conversation. I’ve got a theme running and mixing it up with other stuff through a form makes me lose interest.

    I’ve worked in business and entertainment for years and know how things tick. Part of the reason for doing this is to introduce a new format and fold in broader content because most of the trans stuff I’ve seen is a bit crap and nerdy.

    It wasn’t my intent to hijack this topic but that’s where things are right now. I can sit on this thing and use it in my own blogging, or just drop it dead. But you’ll never know what those questions were and I’ll find someone else.

  7. gingertrap says :

    If you really would prefer to just post them here that is fine, I am still willing to answer your questions. Though I will post them in the AA section and on the front page.

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